Playing libertarian’s advocate, a libertarian might say that there’s a big, big difference between the voluntary relationship with an employer and the mandatory relationship one has with the government. A libertarian believes it should be legal to be an asshole, because people are free to associate with whomever they want. That said, many libertarians support laws forbidding workplace harassment, while many others do not.
Again, as libertarian’s advocate, based on what I read and see, libertarians are just as active in lobbying against the drug war, criminal justice reform, foreign policy reform, and civil rights as they are in economic matters. There are lots and lots of poor and middle-class libertarians who have put a lot of thought into their beliefs.
I think it’s a problem when we pretend to understand the motives behind one kind of thinking and that we understand them to be nefarious. And while there are nefarious libertarians, just as there are nefarious Democrats and Republicans (Democrats have been much less liberal than libertarians in many instances, after all), there’s just nothing to suggest that people with libertarian tendencies are inherently more self-interested than other folks, because, like I’ve said, there are all kinds of libertarians.
I’m a secular liberal who has homeschooled his son for 11 years now. The only people who have ever called me a freak or a child abuser for doing this were Democrats. But that doesn’t mean that Democrats are more reactionary than other groups. Lots of my fellow homeschoolers are Democrats, too. We all have positions on certain things to which we tend to react without thinking.
If libertarianism meant just one thing, it would be easy to lump libertarians together as being more reactionary than other people. But since libertarianism means many things, and libertarians are, like communists and pacifists and Islamicists and militarists, etc., human beings, it means that they have different beliefs within the labelled umbrella they’re under. It means that, like all of us, some of them are selfish and shallow and some of them are kind and thoughtful and some are mixtures of both.