Reporter who does not like to be touched meets man who likes to touch reporters

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You should be absolutely proud of this. So many people, far too many people, can’t do that one simple act of listening.

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And so easy to actually do, once you learn how to do it. And yet, so many people can’t be bothered to shut up and listen.

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after the third ‘take your hands off me’, it’s threatening/assault. You’re joking, right?

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I’ll bow out.

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The reporter is paid to get in someones face and antagonize them into giving a statement, he relies on being aggressive and he is good at it. A person can be right, and also be an asshole.

If you think i want to take away freedom of the press, you have completely misunderstood my point.

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If he’s right and doing his job to report on public corruption, then being an “asshole” in this scenario isn’t a bad thing, so the label/distinction is meaningless.

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sometimes it’s context? Sometimes in a different context even those with admirable skill, lose it.

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True… and I’m speaking from personal experience here, so YMMV… But I’ve known quite a lot of people who will simply drop you as a friend for being “too drama filled” when you’re struggling, no matter what the reason for doing so. They don’t feel a friendship is the proper place for sharing troubles (at least some troubles), but that it should be the job of a therapist to do that. I’m finding that becoming a bit more common, I’m afraid.

But yeah. Sometimes, the context will mean that a person can’t listen.

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I hear that. I have that T-shirt too.

For me, I was struggling with some situations uncomfortably similar to those that I was confiding in were suffering, or perpetrating, in a different context. And I didn’t know that yet. You’re not going to get much empathy from someone who gave up struggling in that area, or who causes those kinds of struggles for others. In fact you will get awful advice and no sympathy.

I also knew some folks who saw the kinds of troubles to be shared were ‘their troubles’. My troubles were not on the docket.

Listening to understand is hard. Wanting to understand is rare.

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