Are you serious? You posted about your issue with the world by airing it here. I can't even comprehend how the above statement is supposed to reconcile with reality.
Secondly, let's not pretend that gendered pronouns are somehow never used in derogatory or demeaning ways. I will accept the argument that this is a text-based medium and therefore the sort of verbal cues that would normally be present are not, and therefore confusion is possible, but that doesn't warrant rude counter-reactions either.
I'm going to leave the discussion above from you, @M_Dub, @mewyn and others as-is and chalk it up to textual tonal ambiguousness, but let's not derail further from the topic, please. Thanks.