Sadly, I think we know the answer to that. I mean, how many trans women in the US have been arrested for defending themselves? I know it’s happened way more than once.
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I appreciate the support. But the longstanding sentiment that trans people are worthwhile because we say something about cis people is annoying. We’re important because we’re people. It’s not our responsibility to change cis people or enlighten them. We have worth regardless- just like everyone.
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The comparisons in that article also kind of bug me. They talk about abolitionists and civil rights activist. Galileo and Joan of Arc. The article is comparing us to people who were persecuted for what they did, not simply for who they were. It’s a little different. We’re just trying to be. I’m not trying to change the world.
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It strikes me that the ultimate goal here is to make being trans boring and normal, just another way to be that no one thinks is weird or aberrant or scary… it’s just another way of existing in this world that no one freaks out about, because they’re not secure enough in their own selves to live and let live…
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And many of us express our identities in many different ways. Some that might not jibe with their politics. They still matter.
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The whole thing is so stupid. “Hey, these parents said their trans kids showed no signs of gender dysphoria even just a few weeks before they told them they were trans!”
“Huh. And you can’t think of any reason why the kids might have been concealing those signs from their parents?”
“Well no, why would they?”
“Gee, I don’t know. Maybe because they were afraid their parents would send them to pray the gay away camp? Or disown them? Or kick them out? Or beat them?”
I mean, jeez, it doesn’t take a rocket surgeon to figure this out. I came out to my parents at 36 or 37, and I was still petrified, and they had no idea. And my fears were well founded, as it turns out. But I knew, at least at some level, since I was 5. Rapid onset, my ass.
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Well, I still see no evidence that these grifters have decided to include actual trans people in their “research.” By excluding trans folk, refusing them agency in their own lives, and relying entirely on the recall of their transphobic parents and a series of Just-So stories, they feel they can essentially eliminate any transmasc person from the trans community and file them under “confused, abused lesbians.” Additional rage about the effort to deny autistic people agency as well. I would call them idiots, but that would be disrespectful to actual idiots.
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Seattle Children’s fights back. This is so good to see!
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Yeah, that’s great. Although, inaccuracies like this don’t help the cause:
The state law also bans gender-affirming surgeries for trans under-18s, despite no minors being permitted to undergo gender confirmation procedures anywhere in the US or the world.
That’s just not accurate. It’s true that it’s rare for minors to be allowed to undergo such procedures, but they do happen. Breast augmentations and mastectomies occasionally are performed on minors for gender affirmation purposes, although this will usually be on people who are very close to the age of majority, and who have been living outwardly and successfully as their identified gender for several years. The standards of care don’t outright prohibit performing such procedures on minors. They just don’t generally recommend it, and so most doctors and clinics and hospitals won’t, unless it is deemed safe and appropriate. Jazz Jennings had gender confirmation surgery at the age of 17. In the US. It does happen. So making blanket statements that it doesn’t isn’t helpful, because it’s pretty easy to disprove. We should focus on the fact that there are standards of care that are extremely restrictive, and that gender dysphoria is a medical diagnosis, and the treatment of it should be between the patient, the patient’s parents or guardians if they are minors, and their doctors, and the state should stay out of it. It shouldn’t be treated any differently than any other medical treatment.
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Shocked. Not shocked.
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Yeah. When I came out to my parents (again, I was in my 30s), it drove them back to church, where their minister (surprisingly a United Methodist minister) told them to practice tough love and cut off all contact with me (my mother has since abandoned that approach and reestablished contact…things are improving, very very slowly). I can’t imagine going through that as a teen when you’re still entirely reliant on your parents for financial, physical, and emotional support.
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I’m so glad I have supportive parents. Transitioning is hard enough, I can’t imagine how difficult it would be to manage without support.
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Good lord, that is a depressing read. But we have seen this in real life, where several family members have been quite open and vocal about demanding to deadname and misgender our youngest. We have told her that it might be best to cut ties and protect herself, but she values those relationships, and says she can deal. I can only pray she is able to do so…
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Oh I didn’t do it without support. I just had to find that support with chosen family. I almost didn’t, though. That initial rejection I was unprepared for, and I was already an alcoholic, and that just sent me into a death spiral. I’m lucky I pulled out of it.
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Other than family, I was mostly alone when I started transitioning. I let many friendships fade away through my years of depression. I’ve since found support outside of family, but my parents support was crucial in the beginning.
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Mine told me to not contact them after I came out to them. They eventually came around and were supportive. Helped by a Catholic priest who was a longtime family friend.
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And Jesus hates that asshole and will laugh as he burns in hell…
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