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In David Wondrichâs Imbibe! he has to explain that though the Clover Club is pink, it was in the day a drink for a manâs man in its namesake club.
Freeing oneself from pinkâs âgenderingâ is so liberating. Itâs a great color to wear and easy to match against.
Oh, and the Clover Club is a phenomenal cocktail!
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All of these men take great lengths to portray themselves as part of the American masculine, working class ideal, despite never working a day of hard labor in their entire lives.
Carlson and Trump Jr are both fond of talking about an alleged crisis of American masculinity, tapping into menâs anxieties over feminist and LGBTQ progress in an effort to boost their own followings.
Forgive me for going full feminist, but this is exactly how patriarchy polices men. The other day I was watching a YouTube video of a channel of men who were doing a reaction video of the Barbie movie and I was struck by one of the commenterâs commentary. These are three burly white men, talking about how they related to the feminist message of the movie about how women are never good enough no matter how they look or act.
This YouTuber mentioned that growing up, He-Man was a masculine ideal for young boys and men and that thereâs an expectation for men to have a body like He-Manâs. This would make sense for a guy who clearly works out regularly, but I think the part of his analysis that he missed is that that masculine ideal doesnât come from women, it comes from other men.
If you peruse menâs health magazine covers, youâll see overly muscular men, all veiny and intimidating, mugging and preening for the camera. This is the message that men are sending other men. You need to look a certain way to have power over other men.
Contrast this with men who appear on the covers of womenâs magazines. There youâll find men with fewer prominent muscles, often wearing a turtleneck and holding a baked good. This is the ideal that women often (but not always) prefer. The He-Man ideal of manhood in masculinity is an idea by and for other men.
The Tucker Carlson image of masculinity is much the same. None of it is authentic, itâs all carefully considered in order to manipulate their followers. Itâs an empty representation of American masculinity. No one really dresses this way every day, except for these conservative media figures. Theyâre claiming a form of masculinity that doesnât really exist except in their own fever dreams.
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A lot of men look great in pink đ©· my daughter loves buying her dad pink shirts and he rocks them with no issues
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Pink dress shirt with white collar and white stripes is a classic look.
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That whole essay is so good, but this part really caught me. Itâs so obvious once I read it, but I hadnât really ever thought of it in such clear terms before.
Thinking of it reminds me of those cartoons where a group of boys sees another boy kissing a girl and tell him how gay that is. 
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Thatâs a good snip, and so is this:
Fever dreams, just like being the good guy with a gun or some nonsense.
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Yes, and in most cases, deciding to get far away from misogynistic slobs like him. And they didnât have to concentrate much before deciding, either.
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So many words, so little change.
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The most recent wave of commenters have tended to position themselves as iconoclasts speaking hard truths: Two-parent families often result in better outcomes for kids, writes Megan McArdle, in The Washington Post, but âfor various reasons,â she goes on, this âis too often left unsaidâ â even though policy wonks, and the pundits who trumpet their ideas, have been telling (straight) people to get married for the sake of their children for decades. Brad Wilcox of the Institute for Family Studies, who recently scoffed at âthe notion that love, not marriage, makes a family,â has a forthcoming book titled âGet Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization.â All of these scolds typically rely on the same batch of academic studies, now compiled by economist Melissa Kearney in her new book âThe Two-Parent Privilege: How Americans Stopped Getting Married and Started Falling Behind,â which show that kids with two parents fare better on a variety of life outcomes than those raised by single parents, who are overwhelmingly women.
This may well be true. But harping on people to get married from high up in the ivory tower fails to engage with the reality on the ground that heterosexual women from many walks of life confront: that is, the state of men today. Having written about gender, dating, and reproduction for years, Iâm struck by how blithely these admonitions to get married skate over peopleâs lived experience. A more granular look at what the reality of dating looks and feels like for straight women can go a long way toward explaining why marriage rates are lower than policy scholars would prefer.
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âMoney is seldom the primary reasonâ why mothers say they are no longer with their childrenâs fathers. Instead, mothers point to âfar more seriousâ offenses: âIt is the drug and alcohol abuse, the criminal behavior and consequent incarceration, the repeated infidelity, and the patterns of intimate violence that are the villains looming largest in poor mothersâ accounts of relational failure.â
But it doesnât take behavior this harmful to discourage marriage; often, simple compatibility or constancy can be elusive. Ms. Camino, for her part, has dabbled in dating since her partner left, but hasnât yet met anyone who shares her values, someone whoâs funny and â she hesitates to use the word âfeministâ â but a man who wonât just roll his eyes and say something about being on her period whenever she voices an opinion. The last person she went out with âghostedâ her, disappearing without warning after four months of dating. âThere are women that are just out here trying, and the men arenât ready,â she told me. âThey donât care, most of them.â
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Daniel Cox, a senior fellow at the American Enterprise Institute who recently surveyed more than 5,000 Americans about dating and relationships, found that nearly half of college-educated women said they were single because they had trouble finding someone who meets their expectations, versus one-third of men. The in-depth interviews, he said, âwere even more dispiriting.â For a variety of reasons â mixed messages from the broader culture about toughness and vulnerability, the activity-oriented nature of male friendships â it seems that by the time men begin dating, they are relatively âlimited in their ability and willingness to be fully emotionally present and available,â he said.
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