You ain’t just whistlin’ Dixie, dude.
Some days, I wish certain apologists and ‘devil’s advocates’ could just be honest with themselves, and admit that they are complacent with the status quo because it doesn’t have an immediately noticeable negative effect on them personally.
I don’t think I confined my use of the term “sexually signaling” to women. I’m sorry if I conveyed that impression.
This is a part of it for sure, just how racism and other social issues that affect people on a daily basis it’s easy for someone outside looking in to say something like “well this seems easy to solve, just don’t put yourself in that situation” or “just do X thing”. Well damn if it were that easy trust me someone would’ve done it a long time ago. No one leaves their home at the start of the day hoping to get harassed or worse and if they could avoid it they would and they do try and it still fucking happens.
ftfy my good sir
I was being very generous by not including all those folks who make excuses and try to justify bad behavior because they actively benefit from the toxic patriarchy and/or they willingly perpetuate it.
But it doesn’t matter. Because the issue is almost entirely gendered. The problem is almost never that Sarah decides that Joe’s striped tie is signaling that he wants to bang her. The problem is 99% of the time Joe deciding that he finds Sarah’s dress sexually appealing.
Additionally, women are sometimes required to wear those things that we’ve also decided are “sexually signaling.” Heels, skirts, and makeup are often considered a requirement in order to look “professional.” So now we’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t.
Additionally looks don’t have much to do in regards to harassment. A lot of female gamers receive a lot of unwarranted messages and all the creep has to go on is… nothing, only that there’s what they think a girl gamer present. No picture, no voice chat, etc. Some guys are willing to be complete pervs at the mere idea or abstract concept of a girl being easily accessible to them via chat.
You are absolutely right to find that objectionable.
“Sexual signaling” has always been fraught and prone to misinterpretation. There are much better ways to indicate and confirm sexual interest. Thankfully, folks can have a conversation instead of relying on cryptic signals.
Enjoy this cleavage:
What… you mean an actual exchange of words spoken out loud in order to clearly convey each person’s own thoughts and desires to each other?
But what about the fact that women never say what they really feel.
Yes, you see men are trained to assess the often confusing information they receive from women The verbal, “no, leave me alone you creep” may be accompanied by other subtle body language and dress signals that contradict and even veto the verbal message, such as an ever so small bead of sweat slowly rolling down the woman’s breast and disappearing into her exposed cleavage, clearly signalling her true desire and that man should follow.
I know you’re being sarcastic, but I still feel the urge to throw up at that.
Yeah, I mean her mouth is saying no, but her ankles say yes, amirite??
