That is a terrible experience, but what does “best with prescribing medicine mean”?
He knew the drugs really well and suggested some ideas other doctors had not that seemed promising, some older drugs that are not currently in vogue. I have asthma and there is a certain set of drugs everyone prescribes - mostly steroids - which have a lot of negative side effects.
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That sucks, I’m really sorry to hear that.
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“It was just examination room talk!”
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Yeah, I thought I was done with molestation when I got older but I’ve had a couple of experiences with it recently. One I stopped, so that was good. But this doctor one was just so confusing. That’s what people don’t talk about is how people will blur the lines of what is acceptable and what is not so it’s hard to put it together at the time.
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That is really disturbing. I’ve recently stopped tolerating people who push my boundaries and it’s amazing how that gets spun as rudeness.
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Sure. But I think given the context, it would take a real sociopath to say that, don’t you think? It’s laying it out there pretty plainly.
I just find it frustrating that women talk about this stuff, quite a bit, and that some people are still surprised that ti’s a thing.
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Well, didn’t you know? Women talk about women’s things, and guys talk about interesting and important things.
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True! My silly girl brain, thinking talking about girl things mattered! 
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You’re probably right. I gotta remember I’m wearing protective dad lenses.
Again, you’re right. Some of the other vids don’t get all trash talk, and I only watched The Doctor today, and I have to say, that was the creepiest one of all the ones I viewed (didn’t watch them all). It would be good to show her how this stuff takes place so she knows what she’ll feeling (the creepiness) and how to speak up and stop it. Thanks for your comments, @Slartibartfast, I appreciate your input.
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My daughter is now 19. We just had a conversation about how one of the extracurricular groups at school she is involved with was handing out condoms and sex toys. OK. Yep it was a tad awkward for me but I like that she feels comfortable talking about sex so I deal with that. We have talked for many years about the right to say no and molesty stuff and how to deal with it. She has had friends who have been raped, have had really bad sex stuff going on in relationships. Because we talk, she doesn’t really have to turn to men to get her emotions validated and she feels like she is free to share her concerns and thoughts. I accept her trans/bi/questioning/wtf friends and know who prefers “they” and who prefers “she” for their preferred pronouns. Swallow hard whatever discomfort you have with sex and your teen to create a conversation. Otherwise they get all the info from other teens and there is so much shame and privacy wrapped up in their world.
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I do for most things. And more and more, from the encouragement I’m getting here, it’s time to do it for this topic too.[quote=“ChickieD, post:41, topic:98836”]
It’s also important to raise a kid who feels comfortable speaking to adults and authority figures, so it’s not just giving her some lines to say, but also the comfort to speak against someone in a position of power.
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You bet, I totally recognize the importance of this. Last week was our 8th grade trip to DC, it was just me and her, and I arranged to meet our Congresswoman, just the three of us, in her office in Washington. I prepped her for it, wanted to make sure she wouldn’t be a wallflower, though she did say several times the day before the meeting that she was super nervous. So we talked a lot about stuff that we could discuss with the Congresswoman, we role played and such. She was still nervous, but we both didn’t get a lot of chance to talk edgewise, politicians being how they are, the Rep ended up doing most of the talking. Overall, though, it was a good experience. Thanks, @ChickieD!
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Sounds like you’re doing a great job. Don’t mind if I emulate! Of course, mom is very much in the picture too, so we’ll all need to be on the same page, and I think we are. It’s just time to start talking about it, as you did. Better to get the info from us than who-knows-where.
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I tried some of the books like there is an American Girl book that is good for younger teens, as well as Our Bodies Ourselves. For my daughter, she seemed really uncomfortable with those. I have no idea if she ever read them. I kind of left them around.
When my daughter graduated from high school, we had a long car trip together where she spilled a lot of personal stuff about her friends that I had no idea had been going on. Even as much as I have tried to make myself a safe person for her to talk to, I was shocked at the secrets she had been keeping and how hard it is on her. She has told me many times how lucky she feels that we can talk because her friends can’t talk to their parents. I think if you keep in mind the importance of keeping the communication open, it makes a lot of hard decisions easier.
My daughter met her first online first IRL when she was 17 - and her friend was a trans boy. Well, okay, the whole thing was super strange for me, but I thought that she was old enough she’d do it anyway. The kid is super great. I see why they are such good friends. I like him a ton and I am extremely concerned about him. I think taking her to meet him spoke a lot to her about where my priorities are - on her emotional and physical safety, not protecting my emotional discomfort.
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If her interests lie in that direction, my nephew lives in D.C. and used to be a spokesperson for the Young Democratic Socialists. Maybe I could get some info…
We also had a family friend who was Sen. Nancy Kassebaum’s scribe(?)/letter-writer.
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My folks were not ones to talk to. And yeah, I learned everything from my ‘friends’ at the time. Both my wife and I don’t want that for our kids, so we try to be as open and accessible as possible. Once in a while, my daughter will start talking about her day, what’s going on with her, on and on, and I’ll make a point to just be there and listen, even if it means I’m foregoing something else, like an online meeting for work or whatever. We need to set those good precedents, right? But even so, I’m sure there’s more that we’re not hearing, but sooner or later, as long as the stage is set, communication will happen.
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If you heard how certain species of frat bro types talk amongst themselves, it would be your turn to be surprised.
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Well, no, actually. I’m well aware of that.
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There’s other ways of not being surprised. For example, “O yeah, i know about this because i’ve listened to women.”
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Listen to women? But that’s nuts!
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