I think I’ve mentioned this before, but I didn’t know how much my wife got cat called, told to smile, or just plain harassed until half a decade ago. I knew it happened, but I was shocked at the amount.
I now take a more active role. When dudes start to creep, I shut them down. I may have even lifted some of your lines from this very bbs :).
And it isn’t some sort of “protection” bs or anything like that. It’s more of a, “this dude needs an education, and I have all the time in the world to do some teaching”.
For me all persons show a perfectly normal expression, they are not bored or angry. If I would meet any of them I would honestly believe that they are quite happy and relaxed (but I cannot stand the beard moustache (thanks @enso) of greenshirt - looks like an 80s German soccer player or pornstar).
Let’s take a look at the three scenes:
candlelight dinner
As he stated that this is the first relationship he’s really trying, he knows her and should be able to read the mood - no idea why he’s exploding. Is it even possible to eat and smile at the same time without sputtering food chunks?
POS
I try to follow a three-step program:
$salutation
monetary transaction
$valediction
The only mandatory step is 2., everything else is icing on the cake: Important, but can be omitted. 2. was done, a “thanks” is imo a good enough 3. step. Not 10 of 10 points, but a rather normal exchange.
proposal
Her reaction is not one I tie to the situation, but if one is ready to propose one ought to know the partner.
Huh, do people actually use that as an insult? That’s kinda lame. I’m happy to admit I haven’t seen “resting bitch face” used that much, but it’s always been people cheerfully describing themselves. (“I’m not actually pissed off in this photo, I just have resting bitch face.”)
Though I did get a photo from a friend on a Florida vacation, lounging stone-faced on the sand, with the caption “Resting Beach Face.”
